The end of a decade is near and to make sure I start 2020 on the right foot, I wanted to reflect on the past year with 9 lessons I learnt in 2019.
I think taking a moment to recognise things that went well, or didn’t go well is a great way to make more informed decisions with your next immediate step in life. And this is what this post is all about.
Recognising all that I’ve been through and what I learnt from it all so 2020 can be even better.
1 – Health truly is Wealth
2019 wasn’t horrible for my health, but it also wasn’t great. I had a lot of tiny tedious health issues and it was a wake up call to not take my youth for granted. (because I’m running out of it)
There were days where I was in so much pain I couldn’t get out of bed, it wasn’t great for my productivity, but it also wasn’t great on my overall mood.
People underestimate how much optimal physical health can effect your emotional well-being.
I don’t know if I’m just getting old, but my body doesn’t work the way it use to do, and it drains on your energy in other areas of your life. So health is definitely wealth. Without it, you truly have nothing.
2 – Old dogs can learn new tricks
And on that note, I made small changes in 2019, like improve my posture and drink more water.
I’ve been saying I would for the longest time, but I never actually tried very hard, and I got into a place of complacency until I told you guys my goals. Which forced me to actually try. (Since, I didn’t want to fail in front of the internet)
And to my surprise, it wasn’t very hard. So yes, old dogs can learn new tricks, as long as you kick them out of complacency.
I’ll be sure to identify other things I have been complacent about and instead of talking about it with an attitude of it won’t work because I’m stuck in my ways. I’ll put some honest effort into it and get myself unstuck.
3 – Fail fast
2019 saw a lot of growth in me as a person, as a daughter, as a girlfriend, as an entrepreneur, as a coach and as a teacher.
There was A LOT of growth that happened in 2019 because there were many crossroad moments that forced me to try new things and make big decisions. And whenever you try new things, you are bound to fail.
Oh boy, did I fail. I failed a lot. But I also learnt a lot, and from that I improved a lot as well.
I think most people know that failing isn’t bad, but we all instinctively try to avoid it because it feels bad.
Stop avoiding it. Fail fast, fail often, fail everyday. Don’t linger on the bad feeling from failing and just keep learning from every fail.
That’s something I am planning on doing for 2020, and I am very confident that I’ll be a better person because of it.
4 – Going back to basics isn’t a bad idea
Sometimes you don’t realise how important the basics are until you reach a certain level of expertise. This happened to me while I was created the new edition of the Kindle course.
I wanted to redo my Kindle course to improve and update the learning material, which meant I had to go over everything and check if everything is still relevant and correct. At which, it made me revisit the basics of internet marketing.
And as I was going over the basics, I understood it completely differently when I was first learning this stuff. The information had more meaning, more depth and more context. It wasn’t just understanding what the sentence meant, I was seeing all the things I missed at the beginning.
So whatever your field is, if it’s been a while since you revisited your foundational knowledge, techniques and skill. Go back and you’ll be surprised.
5 – Stop changing your idea
I was guilty of this in the first half of 2019. I didn’t know what I wanted to do next and the world seemed to be teeming full of opportunities. I was jumping from one idea to the next. I had a bit of the shiny carrot syndrome.
Everything felt possible and looked good. I was trying this and that but I wasn’t sticking to anything for too long because I would see flaws, or it would soon be less attractive than the next new thing.
I didn’t come to my sense until my girlfriend knocked some sense into me and made me realise I wasn’t getting anywhere with anything because I keep changing ideas.
As soon as I forced myself to choose and stick to it, my progress started to speed up and I was making significant gains in my business.
6 – Stop hiding from judgement
Being judged sucks, but it’s unavoidable because you can’t make everyone like you. That includes what you do.
Whenever I start something new, I feel extremely shy and embarrassed for trying something new. Sometimes the embarrassment is easy to overcome and others it’s really hard.
It makes me want to hide from it by not being open or expressive to others on what I’m trying to achieve, and this has really slowed me down in the past. Not necessarily in 2019, but in general.
I’ve learnt how destructive hiding can be, and how much you benefit in your personal growth by simply not trying to hide yourself. Who you are, what you do, what you want to do etc.
Feeling proud goes a long way to how fast you can learn and master new things. So don’t hide.
7 – Multi-tasking isn’t a superpower
Learning how to focus on one task for an extended period of time has been a big game changer for me.
To learn how to have laser like focus and get something completed was so important to achieving a lot of my goals this year.
No more distractions or projects left undone. Focus was a big breakthrough for me because my productivity skyrocketed once I truly learnt how to only work on one thing at a time.
Before I would break tasks down into smaller task and just spread them out so I didn’t have to multi-task. But now a task is a task and although I might organise the task into different sections, I tackle it in one go. Be a whole day, a whole week or a whole month.
I don’t stop until I’m done…and off to the next thing.
8 – The grass will ALWAYS look greener on the other side
This is another lesson I knew, but I don’t think I truly understood it until this year.
I was never the type of person to compare myself with others, but 2019 marked my 5th year as an entrepreneur and as proud and happy I am of my achievements. I couldn’t help also compare myself to people I know.
If it wasn’t their career progression in corporate, and having a fancy year end bonus, it was friends getting married and having kids. Once I started, I almost couldn’t stop. There was always something I found to be envious about.
And green really isn’t my colour.
It’s really dangerous to compare yourself. Don’t do it. Don’t even start. Because comparing gives you tunnel vision on only one single aspect of life and it makes you blind of all that you have.
I didn’t stop until I was talking to my friend and she told me how proud she was with what I’ve done in the past few years. It suddenly put it all back into perspective for me. The grass is always greener on the other side…if you look.
9 – Life isn’t a sprint, it’s not even a marathon
I use to say life is a marathon and not a sprint, but 2019 made me realise it’s not a marathon either.
There’s no race course, track or route to follow. There’s no fixed goal and the goal isn’t to finish.
I use to think the process is more important than the goal, but now I realised it’s not the process nor the goal. I approached life way too methodically and linearly.
It’s not a straight line, and you really don’t want it to be. Life is this beautiful adventure you can steer in any direction you want. And as long as you’re enjoying yourself, the direction you take it is never wrong.
It has taken me far too long to realise this, because I think I’ve always been so result oriented. That’s not to mean I don’t care about the results, but I’ll be sure to remind myself to have more fun.
Now its your turn, what did you learn in 2019?